Many people have asked, “how are you doing?” “How is life with baby?” “Have you heard from birth mom?” and tons of other similar questions. Well, here’s the post where I’m going to attempt to answer some of those questions and let you know what’s left. I am so thankful for the time we had […]

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Settling in

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Many people have asked, “how are you doing?” “How is life with baby?” “Have you heard from birth mom?” and tons of other similar questions. Well, here’s the post where I’m going to attempt to answer some of those questions and let you know what’s left.

I am so thankful for the time we had in NY to meet our son’s birth-mom, learn about his bio-family, but above all meet and receive our son! However: being in NY was so hard. Spending your first two weeks as a new family in a hotel room (while you husband has to work during the day) is just not ideal. I am happy that while there Warren’s family was able to visit some, but to just be real honest……I needed my Mom! I wanted her there to share in our joy, to relieve my fears and answer my questions, to be there when I was scared I might lose him and to rejoice when things were going well. I needed someone I could be real with. Isn’t that what all new Moms want? But, that was just not possible, and looking back I’m thankful too that she wasn’t there, but only because it forced Warren and I to step out on faith and trust our instinct and to rely on each other. Plus, my Mom (and Dad) were waiting for us in the driveway just as soon as we pulled in! She had cleaned my house, washed laundry, and did all the last minute things I didn’t have time for before we left.

The first few days home were so nice! We were blessed to have a few meals dropped off, friends who brought us toys and clothes to borrow/have and the beginnings of routine. Being home is just a great balm for the soul, you always rest better and have a better sense of comfort and security.

Now that it’s been over a month, I can say that we are settling-in very well. In the beginning there was a lot of fear. Fear that birth-mom would change her mind, that paperwork would not process, that something-anything could and would inevitably go wrong. But, those fears are diminishing, and now I have totally new (but much more “normal”) Mama fears setting in. There is peace, too, peace that God has this all under control, which helps me to slow down, enjoy Abijah, experience joy, and give thanks for this and my many blessings.

Our little boy is growing SO fast! Sometimes I mourn for the time we didn’t have him, I wish I could have snuggled him as a newborn. But this stage is so fun. Abijah loves to smile and is usually a very happy boy that lights up any room. He is almost center in 50th percentile for everything except length which he is at the 92nd percentile. Because of his height, we have had to move him out of the infant car seat (the one with a handle you can take out of car and carry around) and into a convertible seat. This has posed a few challenges since he can’t sit up yet so he can’t sit in a buggy at the store or high chair in restaurants etc, but I am not wishing him any bigger just for convenience 😉

It’s amazing to me now quickly I fell in love with him. While we are all still learning,I also feel like he has always been a part of us. It’s hard to remember what we did before him and I can’t imagine my life without him.

I know so many people have been praying for us and are excited to meet him, hold him etc. and I love that. But, I also feel like I can be a mean Mama Bear too! There have been a few instances when we were out that strangers have almost lost hands trying to touch him. Last Sunday I put him in the nursery for Sunday School and that was hard. It was the first time I trusted anyone with him other than my parents! Of course I rushed back to get him so he could be with us for church. He handled it much better than me, he was sleeping in a swing when I arrived and wasn’t real thrilled I woke him up

What happens next???

Well we have been assigned a family court judge and Abijah has been assigned a Guardian Ad Litem. This is an independent lawyer who will investigate this case, make sure everything is in order and was completed in ethical manner, and determine if staying with us is in the best interest of Abijah. (Currently, we do not have legal custody of Abijah, that resides with the state of KY until we go to court.)

The lawyer will be here TOMORROW at 1pm! So we will be heading straight back after church to meet her.

Once she makes her determination as to his best interest, she will file her report with the court and we should be issued a court date. This assumes her findings are favorable towards us because I refuse to think about the alternative.

If all goes well – haha funny right – then we should have a court date before the end of October and be fully final by the end of the year.

Please continue to pray for our little family especially as we still have several legal hoops to jump through. We love you all!!
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